Here is a real family Sunday morning breakfast story that happened just a few hours ago. Please read it for fun and to see areas that could be problems or disasters or eating disorder triggers for you. See the quiz questions at the end.
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Bones: the basic infrastructure of your body, can teach us a lot. Caring for your bones can lead you to strengthen other neglected aspects of your life. This post is about the surprising benefits you receive when you tend to your infrastructure.
*Before you can put your attention toward building or maintaining a structure that supports your life well, you need to know what that structure is. What follows is a list of six questions you can answer, hopefully by writing and better yet, writing in your journal. My post on the Gurze Publishing website about new research in osteoporosis got me to thinking about what doesn't hurt but can break us by surprise.
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What you show the world
When you have an eating disorder you skate on the surface of being present with others. “How are you?” a friend asks. You answer, “Fine.” Yet you live in a deeper, darker world your friend knows nothing about. It’s full of pain where you use private intense ongoing strategies to bring you to peace and security, and to an encompassing love you crave but haven’t yet discovered.
Your secret world
Suffering from an eating disorder is a lonely business. You have to pretend to be happy, competent and fine without letting the people around you know your desperation. When you come right down to it, just about every action that stems from an eating disorder is an act of desperation. The binge, restriction, denial, purge, starvation, exercise, and controlling behaviors - these are all unhappy and desperate activities that you try to keep secret. When you have so many secrets your loneliness increases to the level of despair.
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The mother of three children wrote, saying she's had an eating disorder for two years since the birth of her last child. When the child was born, this woman stopped eating, felt depressed, lost weight and still sees herself as fat when she sees her reflection.
She feels elated when she loses weight and works out in the gym for three hours a day or more. She doesn't eat all day; she just drinks water and diet drinks. If she does eat, she purges as much as she can get out of her body.